Last night’s dream was a new one for me. Usually when I have dreams (or nightmares), the ones that stand out are the ones that occur on many different nights. But, this nightmare was unlike the others.
I recently started dating again, about eight months after getting out of an abusive relationship. So imagine my surprise when both men showed up in my dream. Here’s how it went:
I’m in a locked bedroom with a little girl. In the dream I know she’s my daughter, but I don’t have any children of my own yet. My ex is in the room and he’s on the phone with a Louisville nursing home abuse lawyer making a complaint about how my 96-year-old great-grandmother is being treated at her assisted living facility.
Suddenly, the new guy I’m seeing starts trying to get into this locked room. My ex is trying to keep him out and, in the nightmare, I’m afraid of what will happen when he gets in. I try protecting the little girl by shielding her, and when the new guy finally gets into the room, he transforms into one of those White Walkers from Game of Thrones!
As he walks towards me and the little girl, the dream starts all over again. Now, I know that in your dream cycle, you have the same dream over and over which is what makes it feel like the dream lasted all night long, but in this dream, the entire thing happened over and over again, and I was acutely aware that it kept repeating itself.
I woke up scared and confused. Why was this new guy I’m seeing coming up in my dreams as an enemy? Why was my ex protecting me even though he spent so many years hurting me? Where did the little girl come from? I feel like maybe the call to the nursing home makes sense because my great-grandmother recently died, but none of the rest makes any sense.
So I did a little research and it turns out that dreaming of intruders is a sign that you have a subconscious need to protect something valuable to you. In this case, maybe my subconscious is warning me to be cautious when starting to date again so that I don’t get hurt like I did in my last relationship.
Also, apparently dreaming about an ex protecting you could be a sign that I am feeling helpless in some way. This really doesn’t resonate with me in any way, especially because my ex was an abuser. Either way, I’ll be discussing this dream with my therapist, that’s for sure!